After the Aurora, Colorado, shooting, we asked the people we polled how they were handling their stress.
Here are some tips for coping with the stressors of mass shootings: 1.
Use the right words.
As a mass shooter, you may not be able to see it all the time.
But, if you’re on a crowded train, for example, it’s important to remember that your fellow passengers aren’t all lying in wait for you.
“You need to know how to be calm,” says Dan Schatz, a clinical psychologist at the University of Massachusetts Boston.
“If you can’t remember what the hell you’re talking about, you’re not going to know what to say.”
So you can be sure to stay calm by: 2.
Recognizing the danger and taking action.
Schatz recommends that you focus on calming yourself down.
“Make a list of the people you’re in contact with, like friends, neighbors, and colleagues,” he says.
“And try to remember to stop talking.”
When you do this, you’ll feel more relaxed.
Get your thoughts on.
The more you can identify with the threat, the less stress you’ll have.
“Try to be a calm, collected person,” says Schatz.
“Don’t worry about the words that are coming out of your mouth.”
If you’re trying to remember your own thoughts, don’t write them down.
Instead, just think of words you think will help you calm down.
For example, you might say, “I want to calm down” or “I don’t want to panic.”
“If it’s something that’s really personal and emotional, then just keep it to yourself,” says Shatz.
As the days go by, you should still keep an eye on your surroundings, which can help you avoid getting stressed out.
“A lot of the times, people don’t know what’s going on in their life,” says Kelli Smith, a psychotherapist at St. Luke’s Hospital in Atlanta.
“It’s a lot easier to be scared, to be afraid of something that you don’t understand.”
So if you feel like you’re at a loss for words, don